~ Rite of Passage ~
Jordan "Sparky" Gladwell
Jordan "Sparky" Gladwell
You Have Alpha-Male Masculinity Flowing Through Your Blood RIGHT NOW
That Comes From Prehistoric Times - And You Don't Even Know It.
Every one of your ancestors was a WINNER in the survival game or you wouldn't be here.
They ALL had success with women... every one of them.
They had it easy though... their gender roles were much more clear.
Men were expected to men and women were expected to be women.
Now it's all mixed up; women can have it all and they don't know what they want. They tell you one thing, respond to the opposite - and then she gets mad at you when you can't read her mind. The problem is that you're marching to HER drummer... and her drummer sounds like a tin shed in a hailstorm... she couldn't make a beat you could follow if your life depended on it.
Let's Face It -
Your Life Depends On Taking The Lead
And Banging The Drum Of Life To YOUR Rhythm...
The good news is you're hard-wired to be the real man that women love...The bad news is your wires are tangled, sparking, and short-circuiting. I want to help you rewire yourself with 'electrifying' results. "She's Losing Interest In Me... What Am I Doing Wrong?"
Have you ever had a woman lose her attraction and interest in you? Maybe it was in the first few minutes of your conversation. Maybe it was on the first date. Maybe it was in the first few weeks... But she slowly lost interest in you. She stopped calling... She stopped looking at you with the same fire in her eyes... She stopped being playful...She stopped being as affectionate...I've had this feeling of losing a woman, and it's downright BRUTAL to your self-esteem. The bad news is that you just can't get her back again when this happens, and you've probably found that out from experience.
The GOOD news is that you can stop it from ever happening again!
This Is How I Completely Screwed It Up For Myself... Do you remember the first time you got "turned on" by a girl? For me it was back when I was 14 years old. Her name was Jackie, and she was my goddess. Long, blonde hair. Tall. The funny thing was that at first she didn't seem all that special. She was just another girl in the neighborhood.
One night we were all hanging out, goofing around, and it hit me like a bolt of lightning...My eyes locked on hers, and for the first time in my life, I felt THAT sensation. You know the one I mean, right? My breath got short all of a sudden. The fine hairs on the back of my neck jumped up, and I felt this tingling sensation in the middle of my body, passing through me like a shock wave. And through the whole thing, I couldn't move a muscle. I was locked there, frozen.
I had fallen for Jackie - hook, line, and sinker.
The next day, it was raining, so we skipped school together, and we ran around the neighborhood, hiding in places to stay out of the downpour. Jackie and I ran around
all day long, hiding on people's porches and staring into each other's eyes,
holding hands and hugging - and...
Here's The Pathetic Part Of My Story That You Won't Believe... Or, Maybe You WILL.
This is really embarrassing, but I'm going to tell you anyways: That whole day, Jackie and I never kissed. Not even once.You see, I had no idea what to do with her. I was this 14 year old "boy-man" all charged with sexual energy, andnot a CLUE how to use it. I couldn't even make out with her. And here's the part that kicked me right on my ass: Jackie called me two days later and told me we should "just be friends."OUCH...
I'm telling you, I was CRUSHED. I can still remember that burning pain in the center of my chest, and the hour I spent in my bedroom, sobbing into my pillow so no one would hear me. In fact, thinking about it now it still makes me feel sick to my stomach. I'm still kicking myself...!
In that one day she had become the most beautiful girl in the world to me, and she was all I wanted, but... I had NO IDEA how to take the lead and make her my girlfriend -
AND to just DO what I knew I needed to do.
I got together with her friend Kristin a couple weeks later, and Kristin actually grabbed me and kissed me first to make sure I knew what I was supposed to do. (If she wasn't an aggressive girl, I might NEVER have figured it out.) Ironically, Kristin was more of a man than I was.
It's Almost UNHEARD Of For A Man
To Get The Kind Of Education He Needs
To Be A MAN...
No one had ever schooled me or prepared me for the most important step I had to take in my life. Not my mom, or my dad, or my friends, or anyone...I was ready to be a MAN, but there was no one to help me or guide me to take that next step. So I chickened out when it came time to show her that I was a MAN. I was humiliated and heartbroken that I had to learn how to Man-Up by losing my first girlfriend because I couldn't just DO what I was supposed to do.
Can you imagine yourself in that situation? Can you imagine how that felt knowing I had ruined it because I couldn't take the lead?I hope you haven't had to go through that kind of agony,
but I'll bet you can probably relate to that story.
You see, a lot of guys that grew up over the last 20 or 30 years also never got a chance to have a "rite of passage," the "initiation ritual" that told us when - and how - to become MEN.
In fact, it's a rare thing for guys to feel that they've grown out of being a boy and crossed over into the world of adult men.
Here's The Truly Shocking And
Tragic Part Of Being A Man Today...
Most guys grew up feeling that it was BAD to enjoy or do anything that was "manly..."
In other words, we were brought up feeling that it was bad to be a MAN. Whether it was images on television or in the movies, "Masculine" has become something of a dirty word. I once said "macho" in front of a group of people and they looked at me as if I'd just yelled out the "F" word. You want to hear something really crazy?
A friend of mine was taking his clothes to the laundry after dark, and he was walking behind a woman who was also taking her clothes to wash. She looked back at him over her shoulder several times, and he told me he felt guilty and ashamed that he was behind her. Why? Because she was probably worried about him being a rapist. He actually felt like he needed to apologize to her! And he didn't do ANYTHING wrong. He just happened to be a MAN.
We men have actually been brought up with "Original Guilt" - the belief that we are born into this world with the responsibility to "make nice" for all the "wrongs" other men have done.
I think that's a load of crap...
Just as interesting, most guys - the ones who actually had a dad around when they were young - said that their dad was someone they never connected with. He either had bad emotional control (anger issues, sulky behavior), or he just wasn't able to reach out and support his sons like us. Or, your mom & dad had so many of their own issues going on that you got ignored, and you never got any good male role models to learn from.
* Maybe your dad was distant, or only there every other weekend - or gone most of the time...
Maybe he was home a lot, but he was "whipped..."
* Maybe he was married to the only woman he'd ever been with, and he never learned how to show his masculinity to women...
* Maybe you were taught that you needed to be "nice" - but he never told you
how to be the Bad Boy they actually get with...
Maybe he was home a lot, but he was "whipped..."
* Maybe he was married to the only woman he'd ever been with, and he never learned how to show his masculinity to women...
* Maybe you were taught that you needed to be "nice" - but he never told you
how to be the Bad Boy they actually get with...
* Maybe you were a shy kid, and your dad just never helped you out of your shell...
Or maybe you never even knew your dad at all...
* When you were a boy, you just needed understanding, patience, and direct guidance.
You needed other guys to show you how to just BE A MAN,
even if it wasn't your dad showing you...
And instead you got MTV, dumb movies, and bad wussy song lyrics to learn from.
Or maybe you never even knew your dad at all...
* When you were a boy, you just needed understanding, patience, and direct guidance.
You needed other guys to show you how to just BE A MAN,
even if it wasn't your dad showing you...
And instead you got MTV, dumb movies, and bad wussy song lyrics to learn from.
Some of us got too much hardcore "macho" advice that had no sensitivity at all, and we didn't learn how to CONNECT with women while still being a MAN. (Yes, it is possible to both connect with women and still be a masculine guy.)
Some of us got advice from moms who meant well, but only taught us that men hurt women, or they taught us subtly that we were bad and shameful. And there were a lot of great moms out there who just didn't have a clue how to teach a boy to be a man.
After all, that's not really her job.
And no matter what anyone tells you... A woman can never fully teach a boy how to be a
REAL MAN... Women mean well, but they end up teaching us to be too weak and wimpy to really attract women. They tell us to be a gentleman and to treat women "nice."
You know how things work out when you try to be too nice to a woman, or just seek her approval, right? Isn't this the disappointed reaction you usually get when you try to
buy your way into her heart? In the end, you need to know all those secret lessons of manhood that you were never taught, but how can you learn what they are if you didn't have anyone to teach you?
It's A Woman's World Out There,
And If You Don't Believe Me, Consider THIS...
Sorry to say, but society has swung WAY over to the other side and over-compensated.
Women are now the focal point of most of the media out there
because most women do all the buying.
Think about these FACTS:
Women purchase or influence the purchase of 80% of all consumer goods, including stocks,
computers and automobiles.
Women make 83% of all consumer purchases and 80% of health care-related
decisions in their households
By 2010, women are expected to control $1 trillion, or 60% of the country's wealth, according to research conducted by BusinessWeek and Gallup.
Unless you stick your head in the sand, the reality is staring you right in the face.
And of course, the advertising and media industry are going to play to the ones
who control of the money...Women!
I'm not being some angry "chauvinist pig" here. I love women and I love the fact that they've been able to get their justly deserved equality with men.But in the process of building this new society of equality, we men got left behind. Without a safety line or a life-boat.
Here's The Tragic Mistake That Most Guys Make
With Women - The One Mistake That You Might Be Doing
And Making Things Even WORSE...
Here is the problem you should know about, and it's a double-whammy for most guys.
We may not have had the best male role models growing up, and we might not have gotten all the lessons we wanted about being a man, but something else happened along the way that really changed the way women look at us... We became NICE GUYS.
It seemed like the right thing to do. After all, isn't that what women say they want?
They tell us that they want a nice, sensitive guy. Only we learned a different lesson when we got out in the real world and started dating women. When we were sensitive, she got turned off. When we were nice, we drove her away.
If you realize you're a "Nice Guy" and you know that it's not getting you any success with women, you might have tried to be the jerk - or the "bad boy." The problem with this strategy is that a woman can always seem to sense who you really are underneath, so that didn't work, either. Besides, do you really want to be a jerk to be successful with women? No, you don't.
And if we can't be the Nice Guy, and we don't want to be the "Jerk," what else is there?
It's time for you to reclaim your masculinity.
Your birth right is to be the man you were born to be,
without guilt or fear or anger or shame.
It's a woman's world, my friend, and you need to know the New Rules to being a MAN if you're going to survive out there. Especially when it comes to meeting and attracting women, because you don't want to just survive - you want to THRIVE.
Women need us more than ever to get it together and MAN UP.
A survey asking over 750 guys like you what they needed to feel like a man.
Do you know what most of their answers came down to?
They didn't feel like they could approach women...
They didn't feel like they could take any risks with women...
They didn't feel like they could deal with possible rejection from women...
They didn't feel like they could act on their masculine desires with women...
They didn't feel like they could "take it to the next level" with women...
The bottom line is that guys feel like they're struggling and fighting their own FEAR OF WOMEN - and fear of being a man - especially if it means scaring off or possibly getting a woman angry with him.When I talked to women, they told me they're frustrated and tired of men that want their approval. The final verdict?
Women just want men to be MEN
...without apologies or permission!
Some of us got advice from moms who meant well, but only taught us that men hurt women, or they taught us subtly that we were bad and shameful. And there were a lot of great moms out there who just didn't have a clue how to teach a boy to be a man.
After all, that's not really her job.
And no matter what anyone tells you... A woman can never fully teach a boy how to be a
REAL MAN... Women mean well, but they end up teaching us to be too weak and wimpy to really attract women. They tell us to be a gentleman and to treat women "nice."
You know how things work out when you try to be too nice to a woman, or just seek her approval, right? Isn't this the disappointed reaction you usually get when you try to
buy your way into her heart? In the end, you need to know all those secret lessons of manhood that you were never taught, but how can you learn what they are if you didn't have anyone to teach you?
It's A Woman's World Out There,
And If You Don't Believe Me, Consider THIS...
Sorry to say, but society has swung WAY over to the other side and over-compensated.
Women are now the focal point of most of the media out there
because most women do all the buying.
Think about these FACTS:
Women purchase or influence the purchase of 80% of all consumer goods, including stocks,
computers and automobiles.
Women make 83% of all consumer purchases and 80% of health care-related
decisions in their households
By 2010, women are expected to control $1 trillion, or 60% of the country's wealth, according to research conducted by BusinessWeek and Gallup.
Unless you stick your head in the sand, the reality is staring you right in the face.
And of course, the advertising and media industry are going to play to the ones
who control of the money...Women!
I'm not being some angry "chauvinist pig" here. I love women and I love the fact that they've been able to get their justly deserved equality with men.But in the process of building this new society of equality, we men got left behind. Without a safety line or a life-boat.
Here's The Tragic Mistake That Most Guys Make
With Women - The One Mistake That You Might Be Doing
And Making Things Even WORSE...
Here is the problem you should know about, and it's a double-whammy for most guys.
We may not have had the best male role models growing up, and we might not have gotten all the lessons we wanted about being a man, but something else happened along the way that really changed the way women look at us... We became NICE GUYS.
It seemed like the right thing to do. After all, isn't that what women say they want?
They tell us that they want a nice, sensitive guy. Only we learned a different lesson when we got out in the real world and started dating women. When we were sensitive, she got turned off. When we were nice, we drove her away.
If you realize you're a "Nice Guy" and you know that it's not getting you any success with women, you might have tried to be the jerk - or the "bad boy." The problem with this strategy is that a woman can always seem to sense who you really are underneath, so that didn't work, either. Besides, do you really want to be a jerk to be successful with women? No, you don't.
And if we can't be the Nice Guy, and we don't want to be the "Jerk," what else is there?
It's time for you to reclaim your masculinity.
Your birth right is to be the man you were born to be,
without guilt or fear or anger or shame.
It's a woman's world, my friend, and you need to know the New Rules to being a MAN if you're going to survive out there. Especially when it comes to meeting and attracting women, because you don't want to just survive - you want to THRIVE.
Women need us more than ever to get it together and MAN UP.
A survey asking over 750 guys like you what they needed to feel like a man.
Do you know what most of their answers came down to?
They didn't feel like they could approach women...
They didn't feel like they could take any risks with women...
They didn't feel like they could deal with possible rejection from women...
They didn't feel like they could act on their masculine desires with women...
They didn't feel like they could "take it to the next level" with women...
The bottom line is that guys feel like they're struggling and fighting their own FEAR OF WOMEN - and fear of being a man - especially if it means scaring off or possibly getting a woman angry with him.When I talked to women, they told me they're frustrated and tired of men that want their approval. The final verdict?
Women just want men to be MEN
...without apologies or permission!